SELF FORGIVENESS SHOULD BE YOUR PRIORITY...
Updated: Sep 18
By Humberto Fotuna MA , MS
AS I said on my Book Freedom from Emotional Dependency forgiveness can be hard. It can be hard to let go and move on in certain situations. When someone hurts you, it can become a challenge to let go of that situation and move forward with your life.
Believe it or not, and I am sure that you have experienced this feeling, it is often easier to forgive others than it is to forgive yourself.
The benefit of practicing self-forgiveness provides an opportunity for important growth, meaningful changes, and an improved emotional well-being.
So, if you go back to feeling ashamed, you will understand that shame comes from the core feeling of your bad self. Practicing self-forgiveness will be the way to take away the feeling of shame.
Let’s think about why self-forgiveness will make shame disappear. If you can forgive even your darkest or hidden beliefs about yourself, you no longer will be feeling ashamed. There is nothing left to be ashamed about. You will be forgiving everything, whether it is true or not, you will not be thinking or obsessing about it.You will be able to stop that drama that shame was generating in you since forgiveness will no longer be relevant or important.
This is a subject that I really had to take time and read about since it was a personal challenge and hard to implement for me.
If you think that just because a person is able to implement self-forgiveness, they are a good soul and a very evolved, positive person, I have news for you.
Self-forgiveness does not mean you are a good person!
Being able to practice self-forgiveness does not mean that you are right or wrong. You could be 100% wrong and the worst person in the world and continue practicing self-forgiveness.
In practicing self-forgiveness, you will be able to let all of those things go that were generating a feeling of shame in you.
The most painful and most difficult thing that you can do to yourself is to do things that go against your values and beliefs. When you do that, you will be suffering and you will be creating a moment of shame.
This feeling of shame will be disturbing to you because you are doing something against your beliefs.
When you do this, you become a person that will be reacting and behaving by judging and blaming yourself and others.
Take the time to consider this situation in your life. Did you ever do it? My questioning is not with the intent of making you feel uncomfortable, or to punish yourself by questioning yourself. It is to become more conscious of who you are. Is judging and blaming others giving you a feeling of control? This is just a form of SELF-SABOTAGING your own values and beliefs.
This way you were able to deal with shame by burying it 8 feet under in a locked box.
The beautiful part of this process of accepting and practicing self-forgiveness is that you allow a very powerful energy force to dissolve these old barriers that you have been carrying for so many years, while allowing yourself to go back to becoming whole and in touch with your true self with love, kindness, and without judgment and shame.
Compassion is the core of unconditional love. When you offer forgiveness to yourself, you become more compassionate with yourself. This process must be practiced daily in the course of your journey and be repeated over and over again since it is not just a one-time experience.
As you go through an evaluation of your journey, you will realize that there are many things that you may need to change in order for you to achieve what you are looking for. This book is an evaluation of an individual that has just come out of a relationship healing process. That individual is me. Or, it could be you.
As you heal, you ask yourself, “How come I didn’t see this before?” Maybe now you realize that must be changed for the sole purpose of achieving peace of mind, happiness, or even some sort of freedom and independency in your life.
Emotional Dependency can occur in many types of relationships, not just in a romantic, love relationship. Emotional relationships include children with their parents, parents with their children, co-workers or any situation that is causing you to be dependent. If you do not find your ‘true self,’ and become true to your feelings, nothing will work, especially with a dependency.
It is my intention to help you by sharing my experiences as well as teaching you how to embrace and honor yourself. In my case, I did a complementation of traditional and alternative medicine treatments that I will share with you throughout this book.
As an Energy Healer, I needed to combine the traditional and the alternative for a more natural healing process. I will teach you how to use the Law of Attraction, Akashic Records, Meditation, and exercises and techniques that helped me to achieve what I was looking for. I will show you how we are all surrounded by messages as well as learning to recognize and interpret them. As part of the alternative methodology that I used, I will share my experiences with my archangels and spiritual guides. While using ‘mindfulness,’ you will reconnect with unconditional love.
Humberto Fortuna, MA, MS, was born in Buenos Aires, Argentina in 1968 where he earned his first Master of Arts degree at age 20. He came to the US in 1989 where he began his career in the Health Care field in South Florida. He specialized in Social Services for the geriatric population, concentrating in Alzheimer’s and related Dementias. He received his second Master’s Degree in Health Care Administration with concentration in Long Term Care from Lynn University, Florida, in 1998. He received a Post Graduate Certificate in Aging Studies in 1999. In the same year, as a Serial Entrepreneur, he created his own company; Placement Counselors Corporation. He also created Scoop for Seniors Publishing, Papinos LLC, and is publisher of 55+ Magazine, currently available in the SE region of Florida for the past 10 yrs. He currently has his own private practice as a Geriatric Specialist and won the Caregivers award for a book he co-wrote with Cindy VanDusen. He became a Certified Angel Healer Practitioner, Certified Energy Healer Practitioner, and a Certified Past Life Regressions and Akashic Records Practitioner. He also became a Certified Sound Healer and Reiki Master among other modalities. He is fusing his knowledge and experience with all these new techniques and philosophies to further his practice as an Energy Healer while dedicating his time to educating and promoting Alternative and Complementary Medicine with a Clinical Mind. Humberto is currently working on his third book “The Root of Business Conscious Manifestation” and continues to educate through workshops and seminars. email@example.com
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