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  • Writer's pictureHumberto Fortuna

You are NOT Stopping Loving Someone

By Humberto Fortuna MA, MS

Stopping Loving Them and Loving Myself More: Narcissism, Self-Doubt, Gaslighting, Forgiveness, Mindfulness, Law of Attraction.

It is a challenge to stop thinking about someone that you loved. How do you tell yourself and your mind to stop loving someone? It’s even crazy just to read about it without having the previous conversations that we have been having together in this book. This is why it is important to put everything in context. The first reaction that most people will have will be:




As hard as it may be, you need to tell your mind to stop doing something that is no longer giving you pleasure and is just creating anxiety and confusion, that is not helping you to achieve the balance and inner peace you need.

Most of us will say that it is impossible to manipulate who you fall in love with. But, think about it, sometimes, you might wish that weren’t the case. We will talk about how much we can and cannot control falling in love with someone.

There are many scenarios that involve these types of moments where we need to tell ourselves how to stop loving someone.

I’ve seen many times, after a relationship break-up, that some individuals continue loving someone who no longer loves them. When this type of situation occurs, it is very uncomfortable and painful and it affects their emotional well-being.

There are others cases where you love someone who continually demonstrates that they don’t have your best interests at heart or they are selfish or narcissistic.

Maybe you and your partner do love each other intensely but have too many differences to sustain a lasting partnership. This can create unpleasant moments and even a toxic relationship.

No matter what type of situation you are experiencing, it is always complicated and exhausting overall for everyone. So, take the time to STOP and THINK. Is this relationship really bringing the best out in myself?

When it’s clear that a relationship is not good for you, it can seem impossible to simply turn off your feelings, correct? How do you do it?


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